Comment by: Nicole

December 28, 2006 @ 9:14 pm

This is an interesting topic. We’re thinking that we’ll make enough money on the sale of our house for me to be able to stay home while we’re in Charleston for a year. (It would be hard to find a job in my field for just a year, regardless.) While I’m excited about that possibility, I’m also reluctant to give up my working mom identity. I’ve been home with Ron AND Claire since Dec 14, and I went into work today too! There were things I wanted to do there, but part of it was just what you said: escape to an environment that is under reasonable control. Bottom line: I’m not sure what my ideal is. Right now, I’ve got it pretty good and should not complain.

P.S. What does tomorrow afternoon look like for you and the girls?

Comment by: Jenny

December 28, 2006 @ 10:17 pm

I would love to just work part-time. I want to be more of a mom but I need the interaction of adults to keep me sane.

Comment by: Charla

December 28, 2006 @ 10:45 pm

Well, I really do have a great schedule, 8:00 to 3:00 every day, summers off. However, if I could change anything, I would persuade the school board to go to a “year-round” schedule like many school districts are doing. The mere mention of it makes people hiss in horror, but it is actually more time off than it sounds like. The one I like is 6 weeks off in the summer, go to school 9 weeks, off 2 weeks, go 9, off 2 (Christmas), go 9, off 2 (Spring Break), go 9, off for summer vacation again. I just think it would help alleviate the “burnout” nearly all students and teachers get.

I agree with you, I know I couldn’t be a stay at home mom, even though it sounds great. I would go stir-crazy, and I would miss adult conversation very bad.

Comment by: mayberry

December 28, 2006 @ 10:57 pm

My schedule is pretty great — telecommute 4 days a week, with kids in day care all 4 days. It was even better when I worked 3 days a week spread over 4 days, with 4 full days of child care. Then I had an extra couple of kid-free hours every day for household stuff/freelance work/*cough*blogging*cough. Next year when Jo is in kindergarten (WAHOO on the cheaper child care) I plan to work my 4 days spread over 5 which I hope will be more like my old 3 over 4 plan. If that makes any sense.

Comment by: Lindsay

December 29, 2006 @ 8:18 am

My fantasy is to be making enough money from home to justify hiring a helper for about four hours, three days a week. That seems like a perfect plan to me- I’m still home and available if there’s a problem, but I also have a chance to work uninterrupted for long stretches of time.

Comment by: Liza

December 29, 2006 @ 9:10 am

Ahhh… my struggle in life…trying to balance work and family….

Like you, my “ideal” job would be part time and would allow me to come and go as I please. My kids are now both in school so gone are the days where we have to pay childcare for 2 ($560 each - caused us a fortune!).

I am blessed with an excellent employer so I “can’t” (should not)complain… I’m sure I’d talk more about this topic in my blog later. In the meantime, I need to get ready for work. Thanks for thib blog. It helps to know others have the same “issues” I have…

Comment by: Liza

December 29, 2006 @ 9:11 am

Oh, I forgot to put this link. I’m not sure if this work here:

http://lizas-eyeview.blogspot.com/2006/12/monday-morning-blues-confession-of.html

Comment by: Anne

December 29, 2006 @ 9:28 am

Your ideal is my ideal…part time work would be absolutely perfect, espeically with a job that does not entail checking people out at a cash register or flipping burgers, I just don’t see how possible it is. There doesn’t seem to be a large cache of employment for SAHMs who are interested in breaking into the job market this way. So eff ‘em.

Comment by: Blonde Mom

December 29, 2006 @ 9:34 am

Thanks ya’ll for all the great comments. I think this is definitely something all moms can relate to.

It’s difficult, especially when your children are very young, to find a good work situation. My employer is very family friendly, but there are a lot of days I’d like to cut back another day so I have more time to focus on keeping our home in order because, uh, it’s kind of nuts right now. Amelia has also been so sick this winter and that’s been really tough. I’m SO ready for her to stop bringing every bug home from daycare. At the same time, I know if I kept her home this winter she’d still get sick because Caitlin is in the preschool program at daycare.

Wow I need another cup of coffee to digest all this.

Comment by: Paige

December 29, 2006 @ 9:54 am

Great topic! I work 3 days a week. Wed,Thursday and Friday. I love it. I get to interact with grownups and have adult conversations. Plus my bosses are so family friendly and are always understanding if I have to miss work or make up a day.

My only problem is that they are 3 -10 hour days. I only see my son for a total of 2 hours on those days. But the 4 back to back with him is worth it!

I was lucky to find a job that fit for me with the State Dept of Education. It’s a professional job that dosn’t entail flipping burgers. I am so lucky because the pay is what I was making when I was teaching so it has not put a dent in our income. Actually we save money because we don’t have to pay the 2 extra days for a baby sitter. My husband teaches high school so he gets our son as early as 2:30 on most days.

If you can find something that fits for you do it!! I was in the middle of the school year teaching when I found my current job and had to be released from my contract. Luckily it worked out- but I knew I couldn’t pass the position up.

Comment by: Busy Mom

December 29, 2006 @ 10:21 am

I’m looking for that job where I work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday from 10-2 and it involves a lot of going out to lunch and shopping.

All leads appreciated.

Comment by: Mrs. M

December 29, 2006 @ 2:44 pm

Ideally I’d love to work part time from home with a fabulous nanny to care for the kids as I take my pajama clad self into the office for quiet working time.

However I just hope that by the time I have kids I can afford a nanny as fabulous as I was to the children I cared for for 5 (and still going) years.

Comment by: Bluegrass Mama

December 29, 2006 @ 4:16 pm

I worked 2.5 days when our son was little (back in the 80s–yikes!). It worked out fairly well, but I decided I really wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. I did that for 12 years, and for the past 6 have worked very part-time, maybe 8-10 hours per week, with incredibly flexible hours. What I want is this arrangement with full-time pay.

Comment by: Amanda

December 30, 2006 @ 8:42 am

There’s very little flexabilty in my job. But both of my partners are understanding if I need to leave and take the kids to the doctor. Thet don’t my helping me out.

I do love being home with my girls. I miss them after 4 hours.

Comment by: Jennifer

December 30, 2006 @ 3:23 pm

When I was in school FT I couldn’t wait to be a SAHM, when I was a SAHM, I needed to work because my brain was slowly leaking out of my ear to the tune of “Toot Toot Chugga Chugga”.

I started a business, and was content with the amount of time I could spend at it, but then I started to work mornings again. I started to get stressed and wanted some “me” time. Now that I’ve been off for a little over a week I kinda want to get back to it. Kinda. I think I need another week to decide.

I don’t think anyone can be happy with any decision. Is it the guilt? Is it the pressure? I dunno.

Comment by: kara in kansas

December 30, 2006 @ 10:42 pm

Wow. What an array of PT work hours here. I’m supposed to be 20hrs/wk sales, but have been covering extra hours since both the other FT salesmen quit, leaving just the boss and me. I’m struggling w/ wanting to build my clientele (which, as a PT’er, is of course hard to do), help by boss, who is a dear friend, and work those extra hours, yet keep those precious PT hours that made working so doable to begin w/.
I DO like the adult conversation, but I hate I can actually tell my 6yr old son is suffering…
I DO like the commission checks…I hate not having time to actually talk to my hubby…

Big sigh…

Comment by: Traci

December 31, 2006 @ 2:10 pm

Great post. I too, could not cut it as a SAHM, I like the adult interaction, plus I feel in control in the work environment. At home, forget it, I don’t know what the heck I’m doing most of the time. However, I have added some new job duties that require some travel and that sucks. I would like some free hours during the week to volunteer at my oldest’s class, shop, whatever. Oh, the Starbucks in the breakroom would be good,too. Since I work in government it doesn’t seem to be coming my way. I really enjoy your blog- thanks for sharing.

Comment by: Library Mama

December 31, 2006 @ 2:18 pm

What interesting comments from all of you! BlondeMom, you’ve obviously hit the venting valve in all of us.

When I was younger - and my kids were younger - I longed for SAHMhood. Now that we’re all a little older, I’m quite happy with my lot.

I am fortunate in that, as a teacher, I have a chance to have my cake and eat it too because in the summer, I am a SAHM. By the end of August, I’m ready to head back to routine though, just like the kids are.

I’m curious if any of you have read Caitlin Flanagan’s To Hell With All That, in which she explores these same questions. I found it an interesting read.

(I know, I know, when do you have time to read? I hear ya.)

Comment by: Blonde Mom

December 31, 2006 @ 6:37 pm

Library Mama, I have not read that book but I have heard of it. I need to check that out. One of my “resolutions” for 2007 is to read more (besides children’s books and blogs!)

Comment by: Heather

December 31, 2006 @ 9:26 pm

Okay, this title made me laugh out loud! So much so, that my husband came in the office to see what was wrong with me! You’re very witty!

Comment by: Heather

December 31, 2006 @ 9:29 pm

Sorry, forgot to answer the question! I work outside the home. However, I am lucky enough to be a teacher. In fact, my oldest attends the school where I teach. I have all the respect in the world for stay-at-home moms, but it is simply not for me. Holidays and the summer are good enough for me! I think it depends on your personality.

Comment by: Mrs. Flinger

January 1, 2007 @ 11:14 pm

I’m really feeling this right now with my working from home/toddler/never leaving the house problem. I need the interaction of seeing people in real life but the flexibility of being a mom.

I actually used to have my perfect work scenario. I was a “full time” prof that worked two days a week (all my classes were stacked back to back those two days). I graded at home on M/W/F on my own time (two hours here or there) and worked from 8-5 on T/R. Honestly? I miss it. Oh. So. Much.

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